Monday, February 27, 2006
Went to catch I'm Not Stupid Too with two of my joker classmates, a.k.a friendz... in case of any internal strife!! Anyway, it had been a long time since the feeling of desperation of catching a particular movie was in me and it jus happened that i caught it with them.
Well, the reason for watching the movie would sound familar to many of my school friends... Once again, it started with the topic of watching movie, which was brought up by our dear Sarah while dinnering. And then, GUESS WHAT, the FAMOUS PHRASE RETURNED!!!! "TODAY LA!" So, the hype was created it generated plenty of commotion. SMall one though. And well, sarah ended up in cine meeting her friends and leaving the two indo companions including me to make it threesome!
Fortunately, the decision was to enjoy I'M NOT STUPID TOO and not some other joker movies. And that brought me to the touching, meaningful, enlightening and comical story that Jack Neo had created.
It started with these two joker teenagers who were brought up in two contrasting family backgrounds, but with similar problems - A raw diamond without a proper polishing process. And the story moved on with a further elaboration of their backgrounds which resulted in tears flooding the theatre. (warning: this is absolutely true. The probability of crying is 95% and the S.D value is a mere 1.23456789% and based on a sample size of ard 75 people.) The description here might sound vague to many who haven watched it, but once you watched it, it is apparent that no one can resist the temptation to let your tears flow freely as the movie progressed.
The best thing about this movie was the ability to relate to what majority of us had gone through, a certain extent with a R2 value of 85%. And well, we were once a teenager and all we need were ATTENTION, RECOGNITION AND COMMENDATION and it was clear that such stuff were lacking.
It was not because our family and peers do not recognise our ability but it was more of a case whereby it became challenging to recognise people's ability publicly, for fear of several reasons:
1) Sign of weakness
2) Confidence level of other grew while yours may reduce (Chinese saying, Zhang ta ren shi qi, mie zhi ji wei feng) = Praising others to raise their morale, while reducing your own confidence
3) Inferiority
4) Spare the rod, spoil the child, believing that using rod is the only method that will improve the ability of people (In the 1960s to 70s)
Such things will definitely happen, if the compliments are supported by ulterior motives. However, what happens if you have sincerely and truthfully commend on the efforts of the others? Try thinking from the other perspective, How will you feel when someone not only recognise your ability and express their admiration literally to ya? When you have extensively provide an excellent service to people and they in reply, say stuff like, "you are really great man or Well done, is nice to have you assisting me in all these," and who would you feel?
Wouldn't you go an extra mile to provide a much better service for the others? And i firmly believe that you are able to relate to such incident be it while working or running an errand for your mum or lecturer.
However, people are always expecting their others to do it before they will follow. As such, it is easy to find reasons to excuse yourself from commending on the others. And if such cases happened, will anyone go an extra mile to do a much better job?
What comes around goes around. Humans are war-blooded animals. They will understand who are kind to them and who are not. Expressing admiration and offering commendations sincerely and truthfully will only enhance your image as a magnanimous person and not a sore loser. JUs try it out for a day and you will be surprised by the impact.
